4 Signs He Likes You

Photo of author and her husband when they were dating.

 A few years ago, I learned how men behave when they're interested in you. If you're currently dating someone and need clarity on whether or not he likes you, I hope the following helps.

1. Does he ask you about yourself, or are your conversations one-sided? If the conversation isn’t mutual, there’s a chance he’s not interested or has an ulterior motive. One man I spoke with said he was only interested in having a female to talk to.

 That was his way of telling me he didn’t want to pursue a relationship. If you have to ask what his intentions are, that’s generally not a good sign. On the other hand, it never hurts to ask. You deserve to know where you stand.

If the conversation is mutual and he wants to know what you think and how you feel and if he’s trying to get to know you, there’s a good chance he likes you.

 2. Are you clear about where the relationship is headed? If there are constant doubts in your mind as to where you stand with your man, there’s a problem.

If a man is attracted to you, you’ll always know the status of your relationship.

3. Does he flatter you or flirt with you? If a man is constantly saying how great you look and what a good catch you are without other behaviour to confirm his words, that’s typically a red flag.

The old sayings are true: "Flattery gets you nowhere." "Actions speak louder than words."

 It’s a good sign when a man flirts with you in a genuine way. 

One of the favourite things my now husband said to me when we met was, “if you bake the cookies, I’ll eat them.” That was his response when I told him I liked baking. If men could get grades for flirting, my husband would have earned an A+. He flirted in the most charming, innocent way. 

4. Is his communication with you sporadic or consistent? If a man only occasionally graces you with their presence, that isn’t a good sign.

 There’s nothing better than a man who is consistent when you’re beginning a relationship. I believe this saying I once learned from a counselor is true: "The best predictor of future behavior is past behavior."

 I wish I had known these signs before I started dating again in my late 40s. The important thing is, I learned them. Now I'm sharing them with you.

This writing is taken from my book Stop Settling When It Comes to Love where you can discover why settling should never be an option and what real love is like. Click here to get your copy.